Dayton .Net Developer’s Group Membership Drive

Okay, okay, so I’m a hypocrite. I haven’t been to a meeting in over 6 months. But that doesn’t mean I don’t care. And I have officially turned over a new leaf. I’m committing to attend regularly. And you should to. You know…if you’re into .Net development, I mean. There’s a membership drive going on right now, so there’s no better time. You can find out more at www.daytondevgroup.net.

Life is not Like the Movies

It’s been 4 years and I’ve never been more acutely aware of the fact that life is nothing like the movies. In the movies you run into a few mishaps with humorous overtones, have a few chance encounters, and by then end you’ve found the love of your life and live happily ever after. Or on those occasions when you do lose the love of your life, it’s specifically because it has to happen for you to end up with the real love of your life. And usually, the trip there is filled with wit and clever comments and loads of snappy dialog.

But life isn’t really like that. In real life you can lose the love of your life and there’s no good reason for it at all. You just have to live with it. You can find out that you aren’t the love of her life anymore – maybe never were – and there’s nothing you can do about it. And it’s not for someone better or for a better life or better circumstances or better anything else. It just happens and you have to deal with it however you can deal with it. And if it hurts for a long long time, then that’s just how it is.

When you get right down to it, the only thing about life that really is like the movies is the snappy dialog, the wit and the clever comments. And – for me at lease – those are sometimes only to cover up the hurt; to make it bearable even if it doesn’t make it better. They’re to make you forget, at least for a little while, that things don’t always go the way you hope. Or to keep you from spending too much time remembering how wonderful things could be and that it can all be taken away from you for some stupid, asinine, foolishness you have no control over and never will. And at least for a while, that’s what life becomes, a series of events that periodically help you forget for a while.

But I guess that’s what makes movies so appealing. It’s an escape that offers just a little bit of hope. More forgetting for a while. At least when they’re not reminding you of what you lost.

4 years seems like a long time to take to get over something, I know. But I guess the snappy dialog, wit and clever comments only go so far.

Habakkuk 3
17 Though the fig tree should not blossom,
nor fruit be on the vines,
the produce of the olive fail
and the fields yield no food,
the flock be cut off from the fold
and there be no herd in the stalls,
18 yet I will rejoice in the Lord;
I will take joy in the God of my salvation.
19 God, the Lord, is my strength;
he makes my feet like the deer's;
he makes me tread on my high places.